Alexandra Stoddard offers simple steps on the path towards taking control of your life, your way. In the book "Making Choices", Stoddard teaches us to widen our horizons to feel the pleasure and joy of creative decision-making. She takes us on a journey of self-discovery of our inner being and our destiny.
The following are four points from Alexandra Stoddard's book Making Choices.
You Make Your Own Decisions
Your life is the result of all the decisions you made along the way, either good or bad. But you get to enjoy the satisfaction that they were your decisions and nobody else's. You cannot let "whatever comes" be what makes the decisions for you.
Resist Pressure from Others
Everyone is willing to give you advice. Sometimes advice comes from a highly experienced person. Other times, the sound of advice does not necessarily come from the best voice. The author says we need to learn how to say no when everybody else is trying to make you go on a path you are not comfortable with.
Making wise decisions also involves knowing that you will live with the consequences of them. So, resist the temptation of always pleasing others and firmly learn how to say "no".
Your Decisions Will Affect Others
This is usually a point we tend to overlook. To a lesser or greater degree, our decisions will affect other people. For example, if you decide to have a child, this will definitively have an effect on those around you.
A Warning about Marriage
The author warns us about relationships and how to make the best mate selection. Marriage should not be taken as a solution to loneliness. If that were to be the case, one is placing their hopes of beating loneliness but overlooking all the other aspects of marriage. It is not wise to place such emotional dependence on one person.